Have you felt that something in your life is ready to change, even if you’re not sure what yet?
At the end of this email, I’ll share five questions to help you reflect on what’s shifting and what might want to come next.
But first, I want to share something with you:
Last week, I led the final session of my Unleash Your Next Accelerator cohort.
And I’m still in awe of the amazing women who took part in it.
What stayed with me is not just what these women did. Although they did a lot of real, brave, tangible things!
It’s who they became in the process.
During our final session, when I asked them to reflect on their experience of the past 3 months, several women echoed the same thing:
“This changed my life.”
And what changed most was not external.
It was internal.
Yes, one woman finally finished a book she had been carrying around for years, telling herself she would get to it “someday."
Another left a toxic work environment she had been enduring far too long and launched her own business.
Several made other bold moves at work, created new offers, or began to bring long-held ideas into the world.
But underneath all of that was the real work.
Confronting old beliefs about money, worth, safety, and who they were allowed to be.
Letting go of perfectionism, self-abandonment, and old agendas.
Learning to listen to themselves again.
So many realized that what they thought they needed to build was not actually what they needed at all.
What they needed was to slow down, tell themselves the truth about what they wanted, and build from alignment instead of fear (or doing the thing they thought they “should”).
One woman joined in the middle of profound grief and loss and learned how to find joy again and allow herself to experience it together with the grief.
Another came in burned out in her work and, for the first time in her life, had the courage to confront the belief that kept her stuck in over-doing and over-performing. She is finally prioritizing her well-being and already feeling more vibrant.
This is the real work:
The internal shifts that change how you relate to yourself.
Because that becomes the foundation for everything else you create.
You cannot do great things from a place of fear or treating yourself with harshness.
But you can do incredible things when you tell yourself the truth about what truly matters and what makes you feel alive and take action from there.
As this year comes to a close, I want to offer you a few reflection questions to help you tell yourself these truths.
You don't need to answer all of them (I'm not into those super-long end-of-year reflections because they feel overwhelming.)
Read through, see which ones resonate, and spend time reflecting or journaling about those.
Here they are:
- Where did I keep going this year even though something in me already knew it was no longer true?
- What belief about myself quietly shaped more of my choices this year than I realized at the time?
- When did I feel most like myself this year, and what was present in those moments?
- What am I ready to stop carrying, proving, or managing for others?
- What is one small step I could take early next year that would move me closer to the life I actually want to be living?
Wishing you a meaningful end of the year and lots of sparks of joy as you celebrate the holidays!
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